“Before You Say Yes to That Date… Read This”

Should You “Just Meet” Without Knowing Much First?

One of the questions I’m often asked by singles is:

“Is it better to just meet someone if they were suggested to me, even if I don’t know much about them?”

Many add, “Maybe that’s the way to go. What’s the harm in just meeting?”

While there are couples who met this way and went on to build beautiful marriages, for most people—this approach isn’t ideal.

Here’s why:

I hear too many stories from singles who are feeling burnt out. Burnt out from endless dates that led nowhere. Burnt out from investing energy in someone they knew little about, only to discover it was never a match. Burnt out from treating dating like a casual social experiment, instead of the purposeful process it’s meant to be.

When we treat dating too casually, we unintentionally lower the seriousness and intentionality it deserves. And that takes a toll—not just emotionally, but spiritually and mentally as well.

There’s a healthier, more effective approach:

Before agreeing to a date, gather as much real information as you can. Try to learn about their values, lifestyle, and goals from those who know him. Get a sense of who they are and where they’re headed.

The goal isn’t a perfect match. The goal is potential.

If you hear more and find yourself thinking, “He actually sounds like someone I could meaningfully connect with,”—that’s the time to go on the date.

When you’re dating this way, you’re not dragging yourself from one random meet-up to the next. Instead, you step into each date with curiosity, interest, and energy. You’re mentally present and emotionally open—because this isn’t just another shot in the dark. This is someone you’ve already considered as a possibility.

Don’t fall into the trap of thinking dating is just a numbers game.

It’s not.

It’s about being purposeful, emotionally healthy, and showing up as your best self—when there’s real potential.

Want to hear more about dating with purpose and intention?

Reach out—I’d love to talk with you.